Maggie de Vera Blogs: REFLECTIONS…


Beginnings…

Posted in Reflections by Administrator on the May 30th, 2009

For several days now, the thought of writing and publishing in blog form has been following me around… I have to admit, I’ve never been one for blogging- writing or reading them. However, as of late, I’ve been responding to several emails from individuals who were seeking advice/support. Not only did I identify and appreciate the therapeutic value I was feeling while writing my responses (especially during these significantly stressful days), but I also thought, “maybe this can be of value- for what it’s worth- to others who might read it and relate…” Besides, it’ll save me time in having to write the same things over and over again if similar issues arise from others.

Hence, a blog feature on my website entitled “Reflections”. Reflections on this blog are not only mine but whoever might want to share as well (as long as I can consider it appropriate to publish for a semi-general audience). However, for what IS published, it’s for each individual to accept/reject/challenge what is written for themselves. To each their own.. I ask that we are as respectful as possible…

OKAY- enough of the “reason to blog” explanation.

It’s a bit past 1 a.m. and although my body is peacefully resting in bed while typing on my laptop, my mind is far from being ready to sleep… Too much to reflect on…

Here’s one:
Earlier this afternoon, I met with one of my staff (who I have placed as a counselor at a school that specializes in educating special education/emotionally disturbed students). She informed me that she is starting to work with an adolescent male that is mandated to see her twice a week by his probation officer. She shared with me her concerns. He’s a kid who deals drugs and expresses no true intention of changing other than “saying” and “doing” what is necessary for the moment to get off of probation…

I won’t go into the therapeutic discussion/supervision I had with my staff but I will share my reflection:

It’s very sad that many of our children abused, exposed to violence, who have minimal/inadequate financial resources, and lack positive adult role modeling and nurturing (just to name a few) are left to fend for/raise themselves let alone survive realistic horrors within their environment. I look at some of these older teenagers and think back on how they must have looked like when they were at the ages of 1 or 2 years old- how cute they must’ve been- still so pure, innocent, and naive yet only to be eventually lost to fear, pain, and anxiety from the negativity and traumas inflicted upon or that surrounded them.

Damage… damaged children… damaged teenagers… damaged adults… and new babies born to them… many damaged…

If only more hope can be available to those who lack it… How wonderful it could be if more disadvantaged children and adults where to taste the flavor of feeling “successful”- not focusing on the material success alone but the holistic success in which a mental, emotional, physical, material and spiritual sense of success is achieved…

Can we ourselves accomplish this for our own lives? Yes, we can… And I hope each and everyone of us can share our wisdom and support to at least one person in this lifetime…

(Such a different state of mind I’m in from where I was a few days ago- when things for me felt extremely overwhelming and seeming very hopeless.)

There truly are many things that can be done to make things be/feel/seem better… Thank goodness. I hope this for …